Let me tell you a little bit about our Kenny bug. Since he was in my belly, he has been a ball of fun. He would constantly move and keep me awake all throughout the night. He was born at 7:19 on a Sunday morning and I was not able to sleep for the next 3 months. Kenny had his days and nights mixed up but I pushed through and I’m still here.
Fast forward to now, he continues to be that fun kid I keep telling you about. I really mean that. He has a lot of energy and constantly seeks to venture out into the world. I will never get bored of him. He is the child that gets stickers at the doctor’s office and then puts them on the floor in the waiting room. And he is definitely the child that likes to show his artistic abilities on our wall.
Now, let me tell you what kind of kid he isn’t.
He is NOT the child who will sit down for long periods of time. He does not listen very well. He also doesn’t sleep through the night right now. He constantly falls and touches things he’s not supposed to. And sorry to break it to you but that’s okay. Every child is different and just because he is a little more adventurous than most, does not mean that he is unwanted. In fact, that’s what I love about him. I love that he constantly tries to learn new things and tries to jump from the highest part of the couch. In our home we have fun, and I try to make sure I am letting my children be who they are.
This does not mean that I let them do whatever they want. Or that I don’t discipline my children by putting them on time-outs. I actually try very hard for them to know that we must love and respect one another. Kenny is just a bit rough but he loves beyond measure. His kisses are a bit stronger, his hugs a bit tighter, and his voice a bit raspier. No, seriously his voice has always been raspy and it’s the cutest thing ever.
This is my bug and I would have another just like him. Unfortunately, some of you don’t feel that way. People associate him with words such as “bad”, “terrible”, and “beast”. No child in this world should be told how terrible or bad he/she is. They are kids and they come into this world being naturally selfish. They also don’t know a lot and they use their early years to explore and learn. So, instead of telling my child the terrible things he is, why not speak words of love to him? You see I’ve learned that he responds so much better when I’m patient, kind, and caring towards him.
To those of you who don’t have an adventurous baby, you probably think I’m just writing a bunch of nonsense. I’m not. Those parents with high-energy kids can tell you that it’s not easy. I struggle with patience every day. It can be hard when I find Kenny with a black permanent marker in his hand. Not knowing what mess he just got into and the fact that I have to continue to clean it up, drives me crazy. But what really makes it hard is having others talk down to my sweet boy. I don’t want him to grow up and remember those ugly words. I want him to grow old and remember the beautiful words that we spoke over him. I love him dearly and I won’t apologize for him being who he is. As I said before, this doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have boundaries. It means that he is a child. Children come in all shapes and sizes and just like us, they are nowhere near perfect.
I know that sometimes we may say these things without thinking. We all make mistakes but to repeat them is another thing. I’m not perfect and there are times when I lose my mind and may say something that is not rooted in love. And for that I am wrong. My children are a true blessing and you can call me crazy but you wanna know a little secret?
We can only hope that we have more babies like him.