I remember picking Hailey up from school this past Tuesday. She said, “Mommy, I love you. I love Kenny and Daddy and Jonathan.” And of course I let her know how much we love her too. But then she said, “I also love my friends, my teacher, and everyone in the world. Right, mom?”
So, this is what I told Hailey – “Yes, baby that’s right we do love everyone. No matter what.” But here’s the thing. We aren’t always going to agree with people and we will definitely have our differences and I want her to know that. What will set us apart is how we deal with these differences and how we treat others. And it all starts at home.
With all that is going on in our world right now, we can all agree that we need love. It’s unfortunate that it takes an act of terrorism, hate, or violence for people to come together and love one another. Actually, sometimes that isn’t even enough.
Now, don’t get me wrong I know that sometimes things are out of our control. We cannot control those around us. But what we can control for a short period of time is our children. We can control the amount that we invest in them and the things that they are learning in our home.
A child’s home is where they learn the basics about life. They naturally look up to their parents and their siblings. Therefore, they are learning from us. If we yell, we are teaching them to yell. If we cry, we are letting them know it’s okay to cry. And most importantly, if we are disrespectful to one another, they will be too. Children are born into the world without knowing a whole lot. We are the ones who introduce color, race, curse words, and hatred. We are the ones to blame.
Even though Hailey has such a warm heart, it doesn’t mean that she is just jumping for joy all the time. Nope. She is still sassy and may raise her voice or even throw a tantrum because she has seen it in our home before. But deep down inside she still knows about love. In our home, we give lots of hugs, lots of besos (kisses), and we speak love into our children. I have always said that I may lack a lot of traits but if there is one thing I’m good at is loving on my babies. They are each so different but when you respond with love, they quickly learn what your love language is. The love language in our home is definitely physical touch. We are a family who loves to snuggle and just hold each other because that’s how we feel loved.
Overall, I just want us to demonstrate what love really looks like. It can be easy to go by the motions every day and never pour into the hearts of our children. Life gets busy and we have responsibilities but part of those responsibilities are our children. Up to a certain age we are responsible for their actions and behavior. No child is perfect and a lot of behavioral issues are normal because of their age and them not understanding a lot.
We hear all the time that the children are the future. Well, it’s true. And the only way to make their future brighter is to invest in them now. Think about how we handle ourselves in hectic situations or when things don’t go as planned. Are we being that crazy person? Are we yelling and being disrespectful to others? Well, that’s exactly who that child will grow up to be because that is what they see.
So let’s pour a little love into these precious children so that they shine nothing but love one day because we all know our world needs it more than ever.