Our lives get so busy that it becomes so easy to just say yes to others- to make ourselves available. At the time we may not even think about what we are really committing ourselves to. We just accept and move onto the next part of our lives.
Unfortunately, when the time comes to commit ourselves to this event or situation, we really don’t want to. That’s probably the first time that we actually got to think about it and decided it was a terrible idea. Maybe we just don’t want to do it or we just don’t have the time to commit. And that’s okay, but we really should have just said no from the beginning.
Because no matter what we do, we should always speak the truth and pour our hearts into our decisions. In the end, the turnout will be even better than you had imagined.
Here’s an experience that helped me see why it’s important to do things with love:
A little over a week ago I had the absolute honor of throwing my best friend a baby shower. The moment I found out she was pregnant, I knew I was going to do it. We found out in December so we had a few months to start planning. As the first couple of months went by, I didn’t really think about much because I actually thought it would be easy. I mean how much do you really need to throw an awesome baby shower? Food, cupcakes, some games, and we can call it a day right?
Well, not exactly. As time approached I started to get a list together and slowly purchased items online. While that was really convenient it was only the beginning of the baby shower journey.
The shower was on a Sunday so when that Friday came around, I had A LOT to do. I still had classes I was taking online and my kiddos would only let me do so much throughout the week. So I knew that I would need all weekend in order to prepare for the day.
Ryan seriously let me turn our house upside down, spend what I needed to, and dedicate as much time as I could to throw her a great shower. When everything was all said and done I remember thinking back on how Ryan reacted. He never once complained but I had just realized why. Because he knew that it was important to me. My entire heart was into it.
Even though I was up all night and spent most of my Sunday cooking, it was all worth it. I didn’t complain. In fact, I was so excited. I could not wait to celebrate her and the new baby.
So what I’m getting at here is the fact that we should constantly put our hearts into things that we decide to do. Whether it be for yourself or for others, it should be done with the best of intentions.
That day was just a reminder of how lucky I am to have an amazing friend and that my heart truly is in our friendship.
We do too many things without wanting to or without really facing the facts about the situation. That causes us to have a bad experience. When things are done because of guilt or because we have to, they are done with our hearts in the wrong place.
As a friend, I would rather have someone tell me they didn’t want to help me out or just didn’t have the time right now because they were being honest. The other person will be affected by your decisions and actions. Therefore, the least we could do is just speak with our hearts from the very beginning.