I remember being pregnant with my first and I always had a vision of the kind of mother I was going to be. You know, the mom who always has her hair done, dresses well, and her makeup is on point.
Well, now that I take a look at myself, that’s so not me.
Before I had my kids, I always tried to look my best. I remember traveling to Wisconsin to see Ryan and I had a suitcase full of shoes. Now, I usually bring my sneakers and call it a day.
As a mom, we know that we give up a lot so that our children get the absolute best of us. We cook and feed them hot meals. By the time we get to the food, it’s cold and we are starving! We make sure they take baths and look absolutely adorable, on most days at least. Our babies are loved beyond measure. And that’s ok BUT who is going to take care of us?
I have somehow managed to let myself go within the last couple of years.
I don’t just mean physically but also mentally.
I didn’t realize it until I was in New York about a month ago. New York is known for its fashion. So as I was shopping around and saw that everyone around me was dressed to perfection, I looked down and saw ME. I was wearing leggings, a shirt, and my hair was in an extra messy bun. I had no makeup on and looked like a mom of two. I was exhausted.
Now, I don’t want you to think I’m being superficial. There is so much more that I saw when I looked at myself. I saw a wife who put her husband in the back seat. I saw a friend that wasn’t reaching out. I saw a mother who gave all of herself to her children. I was a cook, janitor, and all these other labels. But where was Karina in all of this?
I was determined to find myself again. It can be very easy to lose your identity when you have children and are super busy caring for others. I can’t speak for everyone but for stay at home moms, it seem as if there is no point. Why should I get ready? I’m home with my kids all day or running with them to swimming lessons, ballet, or gymnastics. We spend our day cooking and cleaning the house. I am bound to get dirty so why even attempt to look decent?
Because we deserve to live too.
I forgot what it felt like to put on a little bit of makeup, straighten my hair, and put a nice shirt on. It seriously felt great!
Before leaving New York, I got my hair done because I wanted to come back home with something extra that my husband could enjoy.
I know that he loves me regardless of what I look like but I wanted to feel good. I wanted to be happy and walk with confidence.
This doesn’t mean that I wake up 3 hours earlier to do my hair and look like I’m going to the Grammy’s. No, all I do is add a little extra to myself that I normally wouldn’t. I can still rock the messy bun but maybe I add a little makeup. Or I will straighten my hair and skip on the makeup. Throw on some cute jeans and a comfy shirt. Such little things can make a difference.
This is what gives me a little confidence. So whatever it is that you’ve lost in the process of becoming a mom, go find it. Or maybe you just need something new. A new haircut or a manicure.
Treat yourself momma because you only have this life to live. All that energy you have to love on your kids and your significant other, you need to put towards yourself!
I know that life gets hard but you are doing such a wonderful job. Go get them pretty momma!