There was a time when I thought that I had to do it ALL. The cleaning, laundry, cooking, financing, and caring for our kids.
When Hailey was born I could’ve done it all in my sleep. I was able to breastfeed so I was the one who was up with her every single night. I didn’t NEED Ryan to help me. He offered but I refused. I was a stay-at-home mommy so it was my job. Right? He would come home to a clean house and dinner was already on the table. I’d clean up after dinner and we would all be in bed by 9. Now, that really was our life until our family continued to grow and life got a little busier.
Our ultimate goal in life is to raise our family. That comes with sacrifices and struggles along the way but a whole lot of happiness. Ryan and I chose to do this together but nothing in this world could have prepared us for what we have now. We are constantly in different seasons of life and that means we have to adjust. Sometimes Ryan comes home late from work or he may get out early. That means I have to adjust our schedule that day. Hailey has t-ball at 4 and that means we will be having a late dinner. It’s more important for us to do things with our children and spend time with them than it is to have a perfect home and life.
They weren’t kidding when they said it takes a village. And part of that village includes Ryan and I. So if I didn’t get the dishes done in the morning, Ryan will do them during his lunch break. If I didn’t prepare lunch for him, I may stop by and pick up something on the way home. There are even times when we have to press that start button on the washing Machine a couple times, because we forgot about that load we put in last night.
I know that not all families are like us but I have to remind myself that this is for a season. Eventually, our children will grow up and they will be able to help around some more and they will have their own families.
So, while I wish I was able to be that perfect stay-at-home mom, I’m not. I’m tired, I look like I got hit by a truck most days, and I’m extremely pregnant at this point. But I do have something that’s absolutely AMAZING in my life- my husband. He is truly what keeps the family together. When I give up on my day or just can’t seem to get it all done, he fills in. Not because he has to, but because he wants to keep the family going.
Society puts a very detailed and strong image on women. We should be doing all the household chores right? Well, I’m sorry to disappoint you society, but I can’t do it all. As much as I’d like to I just can’t keep up with the laundry and the dishes, I’m more worried about sharing experiences with my kids and being there for them 24/7. I decided to stay home to raise my kids, not to clean the house. They are my priority.
Overall, I’m just really thankful for those significant others who understand. Without you all, our life as moms would be much harder. So here’s to you! Thanks for filling in when we just can’t anymore.