As many of you know we are expecting our third child in September. This is a very exciting time for us and we try our best to enjoy each pregnancy.
Like any other excited mom I tend to add myself to pregnancy groups, so that I can share the excitement with other women who are going through the same experience. Not only are these groups awesome to share your joy with but they are such a great support group when you need help. I ask questions and others ask the questions that I may not have thought about. It is such a great community!
Well, one day as I was scrolling down the page to read Some of the posts and comments others have submitted. I realized that a lot of people prefer one gender over another. I have definitely been that person. It’s almost as if we think we have a say in the gender of our babies. Don’t get me wrong, I know that some people do but for most of us it’s a surprise.
Now, I never really thought about this as a negative thing. I mean why shouldn’t we be allowed to wish for a certain gender?
Well, here’s what I’ve learned:
I have been very fortunate to have had healthy pregnancies and healthy babies. Like most, I forget that other people have different situations. In my pregnancy group, I could not believe the amount of ladies that have had numerous miscarriages or stillbirths. Many of them have already left the group because their babies left us too soon.
I think about what their wishes were. All they ever wanted was a healthy baby. They did not care if it was a boy or a girl. Their main concern was making sure this baby would make it outside the womb and into their arms.
I remember reading comments such as “Ugh, ladies I’m so sad right now. I have four girls and we just found out we are having another. I can’t stop crying.”
Just because it’s easy for some of us to conceive and carry healthy babies until term, does not mean that we all can.
I’m not perfect. I have definitely been guilty of this. But from this experience I have learned to be at peace with whatever my child’s gender is. The best part about having this peace is that I am able to enjoy my pregnancy and not think about what could’ve been. This is not about me. It’s about this sweet baby that is growing inside of me.
Now, I’m not saying we can’t have desires because we are human and it comes natural to us, but at least be considerate of other people’s feelings. We all want healthy babies and that should be our main focus. The world needs more selfless people. So, why not start with ourselves.
Sending lots of love and well wishes to all the pregnant mommy’s out there!