There’s this piece of paper that I have been running after. Not because I necessarily wanted to but because everyone else made me think that I had to.
Since I was a little girl, my mother would always tell me how important school was. I never liked going to school and hated doing the work but I agree that school is important. But there also comes a time when you’re out of high school and you must choose what you will do with your life. Unfortunately, for so many people if you don’t go to college, you’re pretty much not succeeding.
I’m here to tell you that’s not true. No matter which path you choose after high school, you can make it great. After high school, I decided to join the military. It was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life. And while many may praise my decision. There were others who were still not satisfied with my life. They told me that I had to go to college and get a degree. Well, at 18 years old I wasn’t really sure about anything in my life. There were people who knew what they wanted to be since they were young but I wasn’t one of them. I struggled in high school.
So off to the yellow footprints in Beaufort, South Carolina I went. I met some of the most amazing people in our beloved Corps and I miss them dearly. But I also had some awesome experiences and I was so proud of how far I had come. When I finished my enlistment, I had to start all over again. It was hard. I didn’t have a job and I didn’t have a degree. People just looked at me as if I was nothing to society. So again I was being told that I needed to go to college. Hailey was 6 months old and I decided to go for it. I attended Lakeland University.
I decided that I was going to be that perfect student this time around. I went to all my classes, sat in the front, did all my work, and had some pretty good grades. In May of 2017, I walked across that stage 5 months pregnant. I was so proud that day.
Now, I wanna say that if you have a degree, you SHOULD be proud. This isn’t to bash you because it really isn’t easy but it’s not for everyone. Not only is it not for everyone, but it doesn’t define you.
My degree is in Accounting and Business Administration with an emphasis in Human Resources. I love numbers and dealing with the backend of organizations but this is only a part of me. I can still be successful without this paper because I am so much more than it reads.
This week I was mailed a survey from school. It asked where I was currently working and how I am currently using my degree. When I was taking my last few classes, they would constantly ask what we would be doing after school. Well, I’m here to tell you that I currently have the best job in the world. It hasn’t always been my dream job. But it has been since I laid eyes on my first born. I am a mother. I didn’t have to go to school or get a degree. I didn’t have to pay thousands of dollars on books. I didn’t have to pay someone to teach me. While this may not be the ideal job for everyone, it is for me. My point is that I don’t need that paper.
It took me so long to finally accept it. I am not using my degree and I’m okay with that. My happiness comes first and sometimes that means others will be a bit disappointed. I know that people look at me and wonder what I’m doing with my life. I am busy growing my tribe and absolutely loving it.
That piece of paper that we’ve all been told to chase isn’t for everyone. There are so many individuals who find success outside of school. Knowledge is definitely power but it’s not always found in a college. It can be easy to make it out of college using Chegg and the 20 other sites that help you cheat on a test or find the answers to your homework. Knowledge can be found anywhere. It just depends what you’re looking for.
So I will tell you just as I will one day tell my children. “I do not expect you to go to college. If you want to go, then go for it and I will be here to support you. If you choose another route, I will be just as proud as long as you’re happy and achieving your goals. Bottom line- don’t let others tell you that this piece of paper will bring you success because success can only be determined by you.”