The first trimester is rough. Now, I know there are some lucky mommas out there who have no symptoms and are feeling great, but I was definitely not one of them.
It was really hard. Not only because I was growing another human but also I had two other babies to care for, a husband to feed, and cleaning to do.
I always tell people that I should be allowed to disappear for the first three months of my pregnancy. You know, just go away by MYSELF and sleep. That was all I wanted.
Unfortunately, that is not how life works. So there I was getting sick, feeling nauseas, and could not stay awake for more than 2 hours. There were days where I truly did not know how I would make it through.
But lucky for you, I put a list together to help you survive the first trimester of your pregnancy. So, if you’re a momma-to-be, this is for you!
Each day you will be thrown for a loop. Some days you will have more energy than others, but for the most part you will feel like a walking zombie. So on the days when you are feeling well or the couple of hours that you seem more awake, get something done. Whether it’s some cooking or cleaning. Trust me, you will be glad you did it. For the working mommas out there, you should focus more on prepping meals. After a long day at work and feeling like crap all day, I think the last thing on your mind is dinner. So plan ahead your meals!
Think of Others
We are naturally selfish individuals. There were some days when Ryan came home and asked what was for dinner. Well, I wasn’t hungry and gagged at the thought of food, so I didn’t cook. Sometimes I just couldn’t find the energy to make anything. Do not get in this mind set. Obviously your family needs to eat. So stock up on frozen meals. If I had done that, my life would have been a lot easier. I mean come on! Take it out of the freezer, stick it in the oven, and done! Your significant other will love you for it. He knows that you are struggling and will acknowledge these small attempts.
Ask For Support
I know that some may not live in the same area as your relatives and friends. And that is okay. Find a babysitter for a night. You will need to get out. If you are lucky enough to have friends and family close by, ask them to watch the kids for a couple of hours. Even if you are just going home to sleep or put your feet up. If they are supportive, they will not care. They know that you need some time to rest. It is unbelievable what your body is going through. I am very stubborn and do not like to leave my kids. I always tell Ryan, “I chose to have kids and it is my responsibility to care for them.” While this is true, we are still human beings. We are not robots. Believe it or not, even Daddy will need a break too. He’s been busy dealing with you.
You will NEED to pamper yourself. Do not let yourself go for three months and then try to fix it all in a week. It just won’t happen. I tried it and it was the hardest thing to come out of. Try to make a biweekly trip to the nail salon with the girls. Make dinner plans with friends. Whatever it is that will help you feel better about yourself. I remember going out with my amazing friend (who by the way is also expecting!) to the outlets to go maternity shopping. We also stopped and grab some lunch on the way home and it was wonderful. In those moments, you’re gonna need a friend. Friends are a blessing and we need them as much as they need us.
Our household was a mess at times. Ryan would get home from work and ask to go somewhere as a family. I would always say no. I was not feeling well and I didn’t want to be out in public. That required me to put on a bra and do my hair. Plus I had to go through my entire closet to see what could possibly fit me at the time. It was just a hassle. Ryan was not aware of my insecurities and discomforts. All I did was complain so he never took the time to understand. When your family is going through these changes in life, it is so important to communicate. Let each other know your struggles and discomforts. Now, let me be clear. Yelling and complaining about your issues is not the right way to communicate. When you are gentle with your words, there seems to be more of an understanding.
Join a Group
With my first two pregnancies, I did not join any mommy groups. Instead, I tried to figure it all out on my own. Well, that wasn’t exactly the best experience. No matter how many babies you have had, you will still have questions. This time around I did join a group on Facebook. As with everything, there is good and bad. Of course being in a group of just females, it can get quite feisty. If you can be an adult and look past that, then you will find the groups very useful. These ladies in the groups have different experiences. Therefore, we can easily help each other out. Especially, in the first trimester when you have a million questions about cramps, bleeding, and getting sick. Some of these ladies will post encouraging pictures or recipes. They will remind you of what medications you are allowed to take or the foods that are allowed in your diet. So do yourself a favor and join one today.
Don’t forget you are not in this alone. There are so many mommas out there who are going through the same exact experience. Some better and some worse. But in the end we are all working towards a healthy baby!