I will be 39 weeks tomorrow and that is a little scary. Time seriously flies by when you have two other little ones to care for. As of right now the number one question I get asked all the time is “ How are you feeling?” I usually just respond like anyone else would. “I’m doing great. Can’t complain.” BUT who am I kidding, that’s not really how I feel. I could literally write an entire novel explaining how I’m feeling at this point. Fortunately, I have found that I am not the only one who has so many different emotions and feelings towards the end of my pregnancy. So here are some of the top worries/fears of a mom who is ready to POP!
What if I go into labor in the middle of the night?
For those of us who have other children, we really don’t want this to happen. Just the thought of calling someone at 2 in the morning to come watch my kids makes me feel terrible. Let’s not even mention the fact that some mommas would have to wake up their kids and take them to a family member or friend’s house. If you have someone watching your children at your house, how do you live with the fact that they won’t wake up to you. You didn’t even get a chance to explain what was going on. This can be frightening to us and it is something we cannot control so we just have to plan accordingly.
What if I don’t get enough sleep before baby comes?
This one I really worry about. When I gave birth to our little Kenny, I was exhausted. He was born at 7:19 on a Sunday morning. I did not sleep the night before because of certain complications with Kenny’s heartrate. Also, Kenny had his nights and days mixed up for about 2 to 3 months and it was hard. I just wanted to sleep! Let’s not even mention how tiring labor can be. Realistically, we would like to wake up on a Saturday morning, eat breakfast, get ready, and labor starts around noon and ends in about an hour with your sweet baby in your arms. That would be great but it just doesn’t work that way. The only thing we can do at this point is sleep when our bodies tell us to. The rest will fall into place and we will somehow get through those sleepless nights.
Should I eat before heading to the hospital?
Yes, I know this one is uncomfortable. I know some mommies who will seriously starve themselves because they want to avoid any accidents on the delivery bed. While I totally understand that it is embarrassing and uncomfortable, it is a normal part of our lives. I’ll tell you what, if you’re special one can’t look past it, then he needs to attend a birthing class or two. Birthing a baby is not easy. Our bodies go through so much from the very moment we conceive until at least 6-8 weeks AFTER birth. Yea, that’s a lot so give me a break and let me deliver OUR child safely.
I’m scared I won’t be able to handle taking care of ALL the kids?
First, let’s stop putting our special one on the back burner. We all know they are going to help because it’s our family and he knows it takes more than just the mother to raise the children. Second, let’s give ourselves some grace. We are not some sort of superhero that can do it all. But we are moms. And moms happen to be pretty freaking cool. We are selfless, caring, genuine, and loving. Without even putting much effort. It just comes natural to us. Our children will also learn this as time goes by. They will notice that mom will do anything for them. It doesn’t mean it will be easy. In fact, it will be quite hard but we will get into a routine and find our new normal. Overall, we need to find a strong support system to help raise these babies.
How will the other kids feel?
I’m not gonna lie, going from one to two babies was the hardest, emotionally. I felt as if I was taking something away from Hailey. As if I was cutting her time short and didn’t give her enough time with just mommy and daddy. I remember when she came to the hospital to meet Kenny, all I could do is cry. But I quickly learned that she will only feel left out if I left her out of everything that involved Kenny. I know we want to be super protective over our newborns but we also have to give our older kids a chance. Now, that I look back all I could do is laugh because I LOVE the relationship Hailey and Kenny have. Obviously, they fight like normal siblings but there is so much more to see beyond that. Right now Hailey actually has really bad separation anxiety when it comes to Kenny. She loves being with him and doesn’t like to leave his side. This morning I had to explain why Kenny couldn’t go to school with her. They learn from each other and my heart couldn’t be any happier to add another little one to our bunch. It’s all about keeping the older kids involved in the new baby’s life and they will adjust.
What if my birth doesn’t go as planned?
Society makes us think that bringing a child into this world has to be done a certain way. Yes, there are natural ways of birthing a child, there are inductions, C-sections, epidurals, morphine, and forceps. And man many other tools and ways. It is your body and you will ultimately have a vision that best fits your needs and your family. Planning is all we can do but the unborn child has a mind of its own and so do our bodies. We always hear that we should just want a healthy baby and whatever that looks like we should just be okay with it. I’m not saying to just get over your birth experience. What I am saying is that we need to keep our options open and learn how to cope with disappointment. This will go back to you support system. During and after labor I think we deserve a round of applause. We are hormonal and have so many different emotions going on. Therefore, that support system should encourage, love, and tell you how AMAZING you are! Seriously, those words of affirmation are awesome when we may feel a little down.
Now, let’s go have these babies with a little less fear!